3 Ways to Deal with Tantrums Really Badly

I had a first this weekend.  Rather, my toddler had a first, so I guess it’s my first too.  He got upset that I wouldn’t give him more cheese so he fell to his knees and screamed.  What is that?!?  I thought he hurt himself and the cry was his response, but no.  Before I realized that it was a “T”, I tried to console him.  Ha.  When the light went on in my head I tried the following:

  • ignoring while in the room
  • walking away
  • distraction

Guess which of these worked.  None. 

Not my child, but might as well be. Photo credit: ericarhiannon

He kept at it while I was in the room.  When I walked away he FOLLOWED me while screaming.  When I tried to distract him with something else he slowed down but still was acting out.  I’m not sure what finally worked 30 minutes later, but he stopped.  I was so confused and tired I don’t think I realized when he stopped the show. 

Did I just not wait it out long enough with the ignoring?  Advice please.  Unless you think he’ll be the first toddler to have just one tantrum.

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One response to “3 Ways to Deal with Tantrums Really Badly

  1. Well, as I’m sure you know, kids are more likely to tantrum when they are tired/hungry/board, so if you can solve the problem with a nap/snack/game, great.
    I always wait them out. Oscar would tantrum for about 2 minutes, but because I was ignoring him, he’d stop (now I use 1-2-3 Magic for him, though, because he’s two.)

    Miles will pitch a fit for, like EVER. It’s so annoying. With him, distraction works best – I’ll tickle him or blow raspberries on his tummy. I think do what ever you feel comfortable with, but just be consistent. If you’re gonna ignore, you should always ignore. If you are going to distract, you should always distract.

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